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How You Do Anything is How You Do Everything

There is only one thing I’m a geeky fan girl about: the band Michael Franti & Spearhead.

There are two things I’m really good at: finding cheap plane tickets and getting to the front of a Michael Franti concert.  (And coaching. I shouldn’t leave out coaching!)

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Several weeks ago I went to a concert of theirs. I had tickets in the front section, but they were general admission and by the time my friend and I got in the crowd was three deep. So we weren’t far from the stage, but we weren’t right up against it either.

My friend said, “We need to get up there before they come on.”

“Don’t worry, “ I said, “We’ll get up there at some point.”

And then I didn’t give it another thought.

I just set the intention and when an opportunity arose, like when the crowd shifted and a space opened up or when someone just walked away, I took notice and advantage.

I set my intention to be at the front.

I knew intuitively that it would happen.

I seized opportunities that presented themselves.

And there we were. Up front.

Shortly thereafter I felt an arm pressing against my side. The arm’s hand gripped the barricade in front of us.

“Oh boy,” I thought, “She’s going to try to weasel her way in.”

I stood still, carefully holding my ground. Debating between doing the kind, faith-filled thing, squeezing over and trusting that somehow there would be room for both of us, and standing my ground, which would mean maintaining my personal boundaries and not losing out or being a doormat.

I went with the latter.

Sure enough, in time and with much pushing she did it. She was there next to me.

How you do anything is how you do everything.

The woman and I had the same goal—to be at the front of the concert–but we went about it in very different ways. If I hadn’t noticed openings in front of me that I could move into I wouldn’t have pushed people out of the way to get to the front.

I wait for opportunities and then seize them.

And often, I do so with an “I win” attitude, with little concern for helping others “win” as well. Not due to lack of care for them, but because I worry there won’t be enough left for me.

Meanwhile, I imagined the woman clawing her way to the front doing the same in other aspects of her life. And when I overhead her express indifference towards the band I wondered in what other areas of life she charges toward something that doesn’t feel interesting, inspiring, or authentic to her or that she’s only going after because it’s popular or because she thinks she should or that she has something to prove.

I want to be the woman I debated about being. The one who moves over, not because she’s railroaded into it, but because she wants others to share the win and she knows there’s more than enough space/success/money/happiness/love to go around. Sometimes–many times–I fall short, but that’s what I’m growing toward. That’s how I want to do life.

How do you want to go about claiming a front row seat in your life? Through strong-arming, patient opportunity seeking, or faith and abundance thinking? Or are you failing to make a move at all—resigned to being at the back because that’s where life put you?

How you do anything is how you do everything.

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